Kids Fashion Craze – How Do You Dress Your Kids?

ClothesBy Darren Chap

Are you a full time parent who is clueless about the latest in kids’ fashion? Do you want to revamp your child’s closet and take out all those clothes and stuff that your child hates to wear? Are you afraid that the kids at school will make fun of your child’s old boring clothes? If you answered yes to these three questions, no need to worry. This article will open your eyes to different possibilities and solve your fashion dilemmas.

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The Correct Order for Learning a Foreign Language

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There are two ways to learn Spanish. One is more successful than the other. Before a person signs up for a course, he or she should ask the teacher to explain how the class is structured.

Most traditional classes concentrate on verb structure, reading and writing the language. While the teacher may speak Spanish in the classroom, he will probably do a lot of explaining in English. There will be exercises in books and many tests analyzing retention. This is not the better method of learning a foreign language.

The correct way to learn a language is the way people learn to speak. The key is what information is learned first. The prospective student needs to learn in the order in which babies learn to use language.

It turns out that learning to memorize verbs and vocabulary is backwards.

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Time Management – People First

mother and child sillouette“Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention.”
— JIM ROHN

People and jobs sometimes seem to get in my way. I have trouble with distractions. Whether I am reading, watching TV or working on the computer, I hate it when the phone rings or someone invades my space.

When my kids were young, they often invaded my space. Don’t get me wrong. I love my children and always have. But if I was on the phone, they would choose that moment to act up. My dogs do the same thing now.

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4 Mistakes Parents Make During the "Terrible Twos"

Dealing with toddlers who do not obey their parents is upsetting. These children often act aggressively and are impulsive. They cannot manage or control their emotions and they become angry and frustrated easily. Parents can learn how to deal with children during the “terrible twos” although it is a complicated task.

Between the ages of two and three children begin to disobey their parents in a stage called “the terrible twos.” While this is age-appropriate behavior, parents cannot ignore it or “the terribles” can last through high school graduation. One book from Amazon.com that might help is Making the “Terrible” Twos Terrific by John Rosemond (Paperback – Jul 1, 1993). Another is A Parents’ Guide To The Terrible Twos (Understanding Early Childhood) by Michael K. Meyerhoff (Kindle Edition – Apr 8, 2010) – Kindle Book.

In learning to deal with children in the original “terrible twos,” parents need to develop a plan to stop the behavior as soon as it starts as often as necessary. Doctors say that stopping children from being disobedient between two to five years of age is much easier than trying to correct misbehavior when children grow older. The reason is that younger children will respond to correction without becoming angrier. Early intervention will prevent serious behavioral issues later.

Four mistakes parents should not make include:

  1. Do not use strict punishments used repetitively. This only works temporarily. The child will gradually learn to match his resistance to the severity of the punishment. Angry parents teach children to be angry. Remain in front of your child. Telling him that you will not allow him to hit his baby brother tells him what you don’t like (hitting) and what you will do about it (not allow it).
  2. Do not scold your child continuously. It is more important to approval of good behavior. A parent should seek good behaviors and give her praise five times more often than the number of times the parent reprimands her. Parents must tell the child you like her behavior within ten seconds of what she is doing or she will not be able to connect the praise with the action. Telling her that she is sitting quietly tells her what constitutes good behavior(sitting quietly).
  3. Do not wait so long to react that the behavior gets worse. At the first sign of a problem one successful approach is to limit where the child can go for the same amount of minutes as his age. It is not a good idea to send him to his room where the toys are. Having a three-year-old sit for 3 minutes in a time-out chair will give him a chance to get himself back under control. If he screams at you the whole time, you can add the idea that he may get up only when he can control himself. If he refuses to sit at all, you need to restrain him by holding him on your lap and crossing his arms in front of his body.
  4. Do not fail to communicate clear expectations in advance of an activity to avoid defiance. Telling the child to “be good” does not communicate anything. Instead, specific information should be communicated. Before going to the store let her know that she will not be allowed to run through the aisles. Tell her that she may walk next to you; but if she runs away, she will have to sit in the cart.

You can learn more information on dealing with “the terrible twos” and disobedient older children in parenting guides or self-help books. Parents can also talk to other parents of older children, psychologists, and friends who are teachers.

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Lazy Mom’s Potty Training for Toddlers

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My kids potty trained themselves. It was simple.

Before I explain, here’s some history of where the current ideas of toilet training toddlers came from.

Dr. Benjamin Spock (no, not Mr. Spock) in the 1940s wrote “Baby and Child Care.” His ideas included taking the child to the toilet at set times all day until the kid had an accident on the potty. The parent rewarded the child with candy or a cheap toy and kept training, slowly stopping the reward. Spock’s starting age was when the toddler was a year and a half. That’s how my mother trained me.

By the 1970s some people still used Spock. Other information was to wait until the child was mature enough which was when your child started giving people his toys. So the experts said.

The reward idea had stood the test of time. Having a child’s potty chair in the bathroom from the time the child was about a year was another idea.  For a complete list of potty training products you can go to  http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/

Other than cloth and paper diapers, there were no disposable pull-ups or night wetting disposables. There just were extra thick training pants and regular pants with cartoon and superhero characters on them. These were the goal.

I gave birth to my son in 1977. When he was a year old I put the potty chair in the bathroom and he saw his parents using our big one. Sometimes he sat on his, lid up, lid down, in his diapers or for a second or two before the bath without a diaper.

When he was two, I began seriously potty training him. I bought him a book. It’s not around any more, but here are two from Amazon.com you might consider: A Potty for Me!: A Lift-the-Flap Instruction Manual by Karen Katz (Hardcover – Dec. 28, 2004) and Where’s the Poop? by Julie Markes and Susan Kathleen Hartung (Hardcover – Mar. 30, 2004).

The reward system almost broke the bank. For two weeks I rewarded him with small plastic animals, dinosaurs, and the occasional M&M, all of growing more expensive each day. Then I started to gradually cut back. The first time my son didn’t get his goody, he reverted. No reward, no behavior. I knew he knew what to do. He was just too clever.

As proof of my lack of brains I tried the same stupid tactic again.

On a shopping expedition we discovered thickly padded Big Boy pants. I bought a pair. At home I showed my son the pants, told him what they were for and told him that when he was ready to be a Big Boy, come let me know. Then I put them on the refrigerator.

One day he came to me and told me he wanted his Big Boy pants. I gave them to him. After that, he had one bowel movement accident. I took him out to the backyard spigot, told him I was through cleaning poop and from then on he had to clean his Big Boy pants himself. That was his only accident.

He was 3 years old when he potty trained himself.

I gave birth to a daughter seven years later. I refused to do rewards. I realized that kids want to act like adults and would when they were ready. From the time she was a year old the little potty was in the bathroom. When she was almost 1 1/2, we bought some Big Girl pants. She didn’t want the thick padded ones. She wanted the ones with cartoon characters. I got them and put them on top of the refrigerator waiting for the day she was ready to be a Big Girl. One day she said she wanted them.

She also had only one accident, so we went into the back yard to the garden spigot. She cleaned her pants and that was her only accident. She was 1 1/2.

“What did you do?” asked our Mother’s Day Out teacher, my mother’s age. “Nothing,” I said smiling.

There is lots of information on toilet training out there, self-help books, articles, videos on line, store bought books, or you can do nothing.

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